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April 14, 2021
With the knowledge that U=U, it's time to de-medicalize our sex lives and reclaim our right to a pleasurable, consensual, enjoyable sexuality and intimacy.
April 14, 2021
It's been a while since I have written something. I wasn’t sure what to write, or what inspired me lately enough to write about. In trying to get to the heart of what I wanted to write, I thought first about HIV and aging. As a springboard if you will.
March 22, 2021
For the longest time I loved a man and I thought he loved me back for me. I cared, I cried, I shared, -- in short, I gave everything and every part of me, thinking I was his beginning and his end...
December 28, 2020
I got some great news this Fall! The news that a shot has been approved to deliver HIV treatment (antiretroviral therapy) in the United States. A shot that could keep my viral load at undetectable for two months at a time. I am very excited...
December 28, 2020
It’s been a while since I have written anything. Like nearly everyone else on the planet, my year has been monopolized by COVID-19. My creative energy has felt drained. It’s been a mentally challenging year. I know that it has been harder for many others. I’m aware of my privilege. My family and I are healthy, good financially, and we live in Canada. I am thankful. Still, I am struggling. It’s been a year of giving up things...
December 15, 2020
I am not sure that I would love to go back ten years ago. For so many reasons, I am glad with the progress in HIV treatment, but still not glad with how much remains to be done. Ten years ago, at a time almost like this, I was starting my antiretroviral journey; and for the most part of it, it was the start of the toughest and most confusing journey for me...
December 9, 2020
It’s been almost three months since my move to New Orleans and thankfully as I expected, it feels so right being here. It’s said by some that New Orleans has her own kind of Spirit and her own ways of doing things. She calls to those she wants here for her own reasons...
August 19, 2020
I am moving to New Orleans!!! I’ve been preparing to relocate to New Orleans from my current residency in Seattle, WA for a few years now. You may be asking yourself as you read this, why New Orleans and especially why during a pandemic?
August 2, 2020
In a global pandemic that demands physical distancing, no hugging or touching, how do we stay connected? Spiritually, mentally, physically and sexually.
August 2, 2020
2020 has certainly been a year that will go down in history. It has brought smiles, sadness, and solitude for many people around the globe. For a person living with HIV, these emotions may be a regular feature of everyday life. For some it may be one more than another, while others paint their smiles on with lipstick and perform for their social circle.
July 26, 2020
When you kicked in, anxiety became a widespread disease, especially among us young people living with HIV. For some reason, there was no correct information about you, and I was trying to figure out where I stood in terms of vulnerability to contracting coronavirus.
May 14, 2020
Learning to love yourself after a broken relationship, a rape, a life changing occurrence is often a very difficult thing to do. Getting over the shock, the loss and the changes that happen is probably the hardest step in the healing process.
May 2, 2020
She is a case manager for Women’s Health, Community Relations & Communications Representative at ViiV Healthcare and helped run the Life and Love with HIV blog. Read her interview by Poz Planet...
April 25, 2020
I sincerely believe that I wouldn’t be here or the growing person that I am today if it wasn’t for the vast and beautiful sisterhood that I’ve had the honor of being a part of in the last decade.
April 23, 2020
In this time of isolation, it’s nice to retreat into fun and fantasy…
I would love to hear your responses to this question: If I could have sex one more time, what would it look like? That’s it - one more time - but only one. Just to clarify, I mean the last time ever.
April 18, 2020
Every morning I had a habit of waking up energized for the day, dressing up, and ensuring that I looked and felt good - not only about myself, but about the day I had to face. But many times I stood in the mirror and took forever to convince myself that I actually looked good...
March 26, 2020
In today’s world, women are encouraged to be the best version of themselves and quite rightly so. Women are told to speak up and have a voice, equal rights and never settle. The gravity of these points is enormous.
March 25, 2020
I am polyamorous. I can fall in love with and enjoy sexuality with more than one person, at the same time. I think love is something to be shared, experienced, and not limited. That jealously is a reaction to unhappiness within myself. Jealously comes from comparing myself to others. For me, polyamory is both a spiritual practice and a turn-on. Sexuality and spiritually are linked and ultimately about accepting love and connection.
February 28, 2020
He told me he loved me.
I said I do.
WE walked beside each other, he held me up
I do
I was wrong
February 9, 2020
No one ever told you that you had to date someone in order to feel complete at some point. You just feel the need of having someone, especially when you have someone that you’re attracted to.
January 8, 2020
This is about the emotional blindside, that point in a relationship where you get comfortable, (sloppy even), let your guard down, with your entire planning system beginning and ending with the other person- and then BOOM!
December 29, 2019
Regardless of how, when or why we have become HIV positive, we must not forget that we are all fighting for the same thing: to empower, to educate and to simply live the best possible life we can.
December 11, 2019
Sex is not a crime. It should be a priority to have laws that keep up with medical science. Laws that allow sexual freedom and are not based on outdated science and sex-negativity. The Canadian law on HIV non-disclosure has simply not gone far enough.
November 18, 2019
After I was diagnosed with HIV I had hard time, like most of us. For me it was a traumatic moment. But after some time, I made the effort to engage and reach out to the HIV community.
November 8, 2019
"To the woman who feels alone, to the woman who doesn’t love herself and to the woman who blames herself: Remember, you are never alone. No, it wasn’t your fault. Never blame yourself. And you are loved more than you will ever know"
November 5, 2019
We’ve all been hurt. You can’t be an adult — or single mum — alive today who hasn’t experienced some kind of emotional pain.
October 28, 2019
“Can I still have a child?” That was one of the first questions I asked after being diagnosed with HIV. It’s a question I am sure doctors hear often.
October 25, 2019
It's not that I didn't try to see what I needed to change before, but I was struggling to see the missing pieces.
October 20, 2019
I live in Australia. I have access to ARVs. I am undetectable. But if I choose to go back to work in my state, I could go to jail and be dragged through mud in the media, stigmatized and criminalised for a virus I cannot pass on.
October 19, 2019
In the middle of love and my status, what path should I take? I knew disclosing would mean two things: either he leaves, or he is stays. And I was not prepared to deal with either.