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May 17, 2019
The reason am writing this piece is because of the ignorance that is out here. Imagine growing up in this new era of HIV treatment and still believing HIV is a killer disease.
May 16, 2019
I have a block, a writer's block but also a sex block. My sex toys are gathering dust, my thoughts aren't lingering on any eroticism, they are gathering dust too.
May 14, 2019
Life without sex. What changed? Everything or a small part, or nothing at all depending on your perspective.
May 3, 2019
For me, realising that the most important aspect of HIV was remembering that 'H' stands for human.
March 15, 2019
It's more like, if I begin to see that person being in my life (even a little), imma let them in on that part.
And it's not because HIV defines who I am; but it most definitely affects how I operate. For instance, what if I get close to that person, and the moment that I tell them I am HIV positive ... they leave?
February 11, 2019
Not to mean that when we use condoms, we don’t get maximum satisfaction, but sometimes, women want to be dicked down, without rubber, with cum dripping off our honey pots.
February 1, 2019
I started to think about the rooms and the spaces that I remembered having good or great sex in and what the atmosphere that surrounded that good or great sex was like.
January 29, 2019
Apparently, society has put the stamp of taboo on the topic of sex. You can hear the gasp of disdain from the crowd as you read.
January 24, 2019
December 17, 2018
I am going to be “ancient” soon according to my 4-year-old granddaughter, and day by day, I am more grateful than I have ever been in my life.
December 1, 2018
A radical safe and sexual space would be one in which I am label-less, one where I wear or carry no words to gain acceptance or to be loved.
November 29, 2018
I thought I would ask, what does sexy look like, smell like, sound like, move like? A sensory visual of what women living with HIV identify as sexy. It sounded like a springboard I could write from to share truly wonderful bits of advice with our Life and Love with HIV community.
November 27, 2018
Generational trauma is evident in many Indigenous peoples’ families, with systemic racism, incarceration, poverty, mental health, and addictions playing a significant role in our ‘not so’ privileged lives. Colonisation, and the impact of colonisation, has affected my family for generations.
November 25, 2018
People living with HIV have either two options: to live positively or to live in misery. I chose happiness, but it came with a fair share of trouble.
November 9, 2018
In my early twenties, I was diagnosed with HIV. At that time in my life, I was a single mother with a 3-year-old and had been only dating my boyfriend for 6 months. I totally thought the world of being in a relationship and having a normal healthy sex life was over.
November 1, 2018
Have I ever disclosed my HIV status to anyone? Yes. Was it easy? Hell no! Anytime I plan on disclosing, fear creeps in. This fear can stop a relationship from starting; it can also prevent a relationship from ending.
October 30, 2018
Things are not as black and white as they once were in the dating world. As a single mother of three children, my decisions revolve around how the family will be affected. Since my divorce, I knew that I had a painful journey of healing ahead of me before I could bring another person into my personal space.
October 19, 2018
To all the plus size girls out there struggling with self-love issues: Walk with your head held high.
October 15, 2018
I have always believed that getting HIV changed my sexuality; it broke me as a human being, as a woman.
October 7, 2018
Unfortunately (or not), I acquired HIV from a partner who did not disclose their infection. The betrayal was far more devastating than the diagnosis.
October 5, 2018
As the four ladies were watching the sunset, with wine glasses in their hands, the conversation didn’t drift away from their previous sexual experiences. Linda couldn’t help herself as she laughed so hard and all knew that she had something to share.
September 18, 2018
For most of my adult life, I identified as a heterosexual woman. See, my family, community, and society told me I was supposed to like boys/men.
September 15, 2018
They met three years ago. They were the usual suspects at a play rehearsal. But what followed was unusual, not for them but for “society”.
September 15, 2018
Peter had set my sexual being wanted ever since our passionate kiss and awkward intimacy was rudely interrupted by his friend the last time we met.
August 29, 2018
After surgery (vaginoplasty) to create a neo-vagina from the existing cock and ball skin, the strict medical advice to keep the vaginal cavity open and receptive to whoever or whatever you might invite in, is to dilate three times a day, every day.
August 28, 2018
She is married, and so am I. She casts me as a dancer in a piece she is choreographing. She is 17 years older than me and I am in awe of everything about her.
August 23, 2018
If I put “I’m a trans woman living with HIV” as my strapline on Tinder, I’d never get any hits. But I understand my body and how valuable I am in the world, and I find myself sexy and attractive.
August 20, 2018
One of the few reasons I stayed in my abusive marriage was because I feared exposing our virus to the world.
August 13, 2018
We would talk for hours on the phone, laughing, crying, and being so real with one another.. Eventually, I took a risk, and I asked him, “when are we going to meet?”
August 1, 2018
Dating is different now but I'm confident I won't pass the virus on.