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August 23, 2023
Solidarity
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Welcome to the Life and Love with HIV blog!

With the knowledge that U=U, it's time to de-medicalize our sex lives and reclaim our right to a pleasurable, consensual, enjoyable sexuality and intimacy.
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August 23, 2023
Published by Shelly | Zoe Osborne | at August 23, 2023
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Together in Action: Women’s Health, HIV, and the Power of Community-Based Research

Globally, over half of all people living with HIV are women. Despite this, relatively little research is focused on the distinct priorities, needs, and experiences of women living with HIV.
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July 30, 2023
Published by Shelly | Perla | at July 30, 2023
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Making it Happen – Healthy Aging

Making healthy aging happen is increasingly becoming a topic of conversation within our healthcare system, in research, and hopefully within ourselves.
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July 30, 2023
Published by Mukiri at July 30, 2023
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Online Dating

My love life has never been smooth, actually many are the times that I've declared to have found my Mr. Right, only for the relationship to go south. To be fair, I have kissed a pond of frogs, yeah!
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July 30, 2023
Published by Riley | Shayda | at July 30, 2023
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We Can Do Better Together

Hi there! We’re Shayda and Riley and we’re excited to tell you about our partnership on the British Columbia CARMA-CHIWOS Collaboration (BCC3) study. Together, we’re looking at whether HIV affects women’s reproductive hormones.
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March 31, 2022
Published by Mukiri at March 31, 2022
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You can’t escape Destiny

I remember that I had a bad cough and needed to see a doctor so badly for some prescriptions. A colleague had recommended Doctor S to me, saying that he is a good doctor. So I went, and on entering his clinic door, I couldn't fail to notice the glow on his face and there was something in his eyes when I introduced myself.
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February 8, 2022
Published by Mukiri at February 8, 2022
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When the condom breaks

Condoms are said to be the safest way of protecting sexually transmitted infections that comes next after abstaining, but have you ever experienced condom breakage while on a steamy session?
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December 11, 2021
Published by Mukiri at December 11, 2021
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How did they know?

Earlier I had written about disclosure. How hard I find it to disclose my HIV status to my family, but now they know- not that I got the courage yet to say it out loud to my parents. Rather someone else took the initiative to tell them- but how could s/he do that, hurting me where it pains the most!
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November 14, 2021
Published by Mukiri at November 14, 2021
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Let’s Talk About Sexual Satisfaction

Sex is a topic that is always avoided by most of us. Sometimes we pretend like it doesn't exist. I have heard of an African community where they talk about sex when a girl reaches a certain age, like an old woman would teach the girls how to explore their vaginas. But unfortunately in my community, talking about sex is a sin, a taboo. We pretend like sex doesn't exist, and yet there are children born every other minute.
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October 6, 2021
Published by Mukiri at October 6, 2021
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Fighting Depression

There are times life can be messy and that's when you feel like you've hit rock bottom and from there you can see the other side of the table clearly: the debts, being fired, emotional struggles then boom- you've got a virus in your body!
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September 30, 2021
Published by Wynne ST at September 30, 2021
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Aging and Menopause – How do we get our sexy back?

Aging and Menopause - not the most interesting nor exciting topic overall was what I originally thought before researching this article. There is something innately uninviting to the subject at first glance. Aging just doesn’t have a simple positive spin, although I have learned to embrace it as a stand-alone concept. I like getting older, I like the prospect of grey hair and grandchildren...
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September 8, 2021
Published by Mukiri at September 8, 2021
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Courage

I broke my virginity at the age of 21, and by the time I was 23, I had contracted HIV. Memories are still fresh of the day I lost my virginity. I went home shoulders high and all smiley, I felt I had finally become a woman...
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September 3, 2021
Published by Anonymous Guest Writer at September 3, 2021
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My IVF Journey

I’m sharing my journey to motherhood, because it is important to know that in the healthcare system, sometimes, we have to fight for what we want. I was diagnosed with HIV four years ago. I have known for a very long time I wanted to be a mum...
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August 16, 2021
Published by Jerop Limo at August 16, 2021
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Peaceful Violence

Childhood trauma is not something that you wake up, snap a finger, then it’s all gone. These are scenes that stay with you all your life and cause some permanent damage even in adulthood. Growing up in a violent home, I must admit, caused some damage, and its funny how when you’re a child it doesn’t really bother you until you start getting a clear understanding of things; then you realize how bad the situation was, and for my case, is...
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August 8, 2021
Published by Mukiri at August 8, 2021
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What’s a Perfect Body?

How do you define a perfect body? Is it curvaceous with a flat tummy? Or is it slender with well-proportioned body parts? I am sure you have a vivid picture of what a perfect body should look like.
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