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February 11, 2019
With the knowledge that U=U, it's time to de-medicalize our sex lives and reclaim our right to a pleasurable, consensual, enjoyable sexuality and intimacy.
February 11, 2019
Not to mean that when we use condoms, we don’t get maximum satisfaction, but sometimes, women want to be dicked down, without rubber, with cum dripping off our honey pots.
February 1, 2019
I started to think about the rooms and the spaces that I remembered having good or great sex in and what the atmosphere that surrounded that good or great sex was like.
January 29, 2019
Apparently, society has put the stamp of taboo on the topic of sex. You can hear the gasp of disdain from the crowd as you read.
January 24, 2019
December 17, 2018
I am going to be “ancient” soon according to my 4-year-old granddaughter, and day by day, I am more grateful than I have ever been in my life.
December 1, 2018
A radical safe and sexual space would be one in which I am label-less, one where I wear or carry no words to gain acceptance or to be loved.
November 29, 2018
I thought I would ask, what does sexy look like, smell like, sound like, move like? A sensory visual of what women living with HIV identify as sexy. It sounded like a springboard I could write from to share truly wonderful bits of advice with our Life and Love with HIV community.
November 27, 2018
Generational trauma is evident in many Indigenous peoples’ families, with systemic racism, incarceration, poverty, mental health, and addictions playing a significant role in our ‘not so’ privileged lives. Colonisation, and the impact of colonisation, has affected my family for generations.
November 25, 2018
People living with HIV have either two options: to live positively or to live in misery. I chose happiness, but it came with a fair share of trouble.
November 9, 2018
In my early twenties, I was diagnosed with HIV. At that time in my life, I was a single mother with a 3-year-old and had been only dating my boyfriend for 6 months. I totally thought the world of being in a relationship and having a normal healthy sex life was over.
November 1, 2018
Have I ever disclosed my HIV status to anyone? Yes. Was it easy? Hell no! Anytime I plan on disclosing, fear creeps in. This fear can stop a relationship from starting; it can also prevent a relationship from ending.
October 30, 2018
Things are not as black and white as they once were in the dating world. As a single mother of three children, my decisions revolve around how the family will be affected. Since my divorce, I knew that I had a painful journey of healing ahead of me before I could bring another person into my personal space.
October 19, 2018
To all the plus size girls out there struggling with self-love issues: Walk with your head held high.
October 15, 2018
I have always believed that getting HIV changed my sexuality; it broke me as a human being, as a woman.
October 7, 2018
Unfortunately (or not), I acquired HIV from a partner who did not disclose their infection. The betrayal was far more devastating than the diagnosis.
October 5, 2018
As the four ladies were watching the sunset, with wine glasses in their hands, the conversation didn’t drift away from their previous sexual experiences. Linda couldn’t help herself as she laughed so hard and all knew that she had something to share.
September 18, 2018
For most of my adult life, I identified as a heterosexual woman. See, my family, community, and society told me I was supposed to like boys/men.
September 15, 2018
They met three years ago. They were the usual suspects at a play rehearsal. But what followed was unusual, not for them but for “society”.
September 15, 2018
Peter had set my sexual being wanted ever since our passionate kiss and awkward intimacy was rudely interrupted by his friend the last time we met.
August 29, 2018
After surgery (vaginoplasty) to create a neo-vagina from the existing cock and ball skin, the strict medical advice to keep the vaginal cavity open and receptive to whoever or whatever you might invite in, is to dilate three times a day, every day.
August 28, 2018
She is married, and so am I. She casts me as a dancer in a piece she is choreographing. She is 17 years older than me and I am in awe of everything about her.
August 23, 2018
If I put “I’m a trans woman living with HIV” as my strapline on Tinder, I’d never get any hits. But I understand my body and how valuable I am in the world, and I find myself sexy and attractive.
August 20, 2018
One of the few reasons I stayed in my abusive marriage was because I feared exposing our virus to the world.
August 13, 2018
We would talk for hours on the phone, laughing, crying, and being so real with one another.. Eventually, I took a risk, and I asked him, “when are we going to meet?”
August 1, 2018
Dating is different now but I'm confident I won't pass the virus on.
July 23, 2018
In the first video of this series, we meet Shelly, who shares her betrayal upon contracting HIV from her partner and the potential for criminal charges.
July 23, 2018
In the second video of this series, we see how Shelly’s diagnosis has affected her life, including her personal relationships with friends and family.
July 21, 2018
Dating can be a hard nut for anyone—even harder when you’re living with HIV. You have extra thoughts like who to date, when to tell them, and how to deal with rejection.
July 21, 2018
There’s something about a warm tongue wrapped around my clit that drives me to orgasmic levels of pleasure.
July 21, 2018
It’s tiring to be told that because I wasn’t born with my vaginal space that it is not worthy of love, of sexual exploration or respect.
July 21, 2018
He was a gentleman that believed making love to a woman started early in the morning, long before any sexual intimacy.
July 18, 2018
Two adults meet in a grocery store line up one day; they smile and exchange pleasantries about the sales or the weather, and there’s a spark!
July 15, 2018
I had recently gone through a traumatic separation from the father of my children, and was suffering from depression.
July 14, 2018
The idea that sex and pleasure is not possible while living with an STI is a myth. While your sexual practices may vary, your rights to sexual wellbeing and enjoyment—free from discrimination, coercion, and harm—have not.
June 19, 2018
Your sex life doesn't stop after HIV — in fact, it could actually get better. Here's how.
June 2, 2018
I was raised in an Indian household with a mentality that HIV would not affect me. The reality is that it does not discriminate.
May 7, 2018
A mental health expert offers advice on navigating two different, but very common, issues facing serodiscordant couples.
April 1, 2018
It’s no secret that when it comes to sex, an HIV diagnosis has been known to throw a wrench in the works. But navigating this new landscape is possible—with the right information and support.
February 18, 2018
I kept thinking: ‘He’s going to ask for a divorce. Nobody will love me any more. I’m always going to be alone.’
February 13, 2018
Although most attention is paid to preventing the transmission of HIV to intimate partners, women’s sexual concerns go far beyond condom use.
December 21, 2017
With all the media excitement over the engagement and upcoming wedding of Prince Harry and Meghan Markle, I began to go to that dark place of self-pity and started to wonder—so, where is my Prince Charming?
December 1, 2017
Muluba Habanyama was born HIV-positive. Today, the 24-year-old isn’t letting her status define her—or her dating life.
August 10, 2017
Dear positive women, I’ve been a great admirer of you for a long time, and your example has helped change my life for the better...
July 6, 2017
Every single day I study my daughter's face and notice her expressions, the way her lips move, her eyes, the highlights in her hair...She is my miracle PrEP Baby.
April 10, 2017
"If I have sex, I could go to jail." This is the reality of life for women living with HIV in Canada.
March 6, 2017
I grew up with a very abusive mother. I was always told that no one would ever love me...
February 21, 2017
February 14, 2017
This month at the Women’s Room, our monthly support group for women with HIV, we celebrated Valentine’s Day...
January 24, 2017
I was living in New York City with a boyfriend I’ll call Matt when I was diagnosed with HIV. I was 28 and he was just hitting 35. It was my first steady, long-term relationship...
January 1, 2017
Do you tire of all the safer sex messages and wonder where the sexy went in sex?
November 3, 2016
Are new options in the HIV prevention toolkit creating a sexual revolution and a new poz identity?
September 21, 2016
Is there something about me that suggests that I am a peacock? Definitely.
September 15, 2016
Marriage is hard work that requires two hands to clap. Right now one hand is paralysed...
June 4, 2016
Three older adults living with HIV share insights on love, sex and dating.
May 27, 2016
After commencing treatment, I suddenly had a feeling that something was wrong with my entire body...
April 14, 2016
A few months ago, Mariana Iacono gave us a few tips on how to go down on a woman with HIV...
March 13, 2016
Alright let’s be honest, dating is a mind fuck. Especially in a big city like Los Angeles where there are literally five million other fish in the sea...
February 10, 2016
With Valentine’s Day just around the corner, for the one who is single, things can be very different for someone living with HIV...
December 1, 2015
Sex and relationships are important aspects of life. For people who are recently diagnosed with HIV, it is not uncommon to wonder: How normal will my life be? Can I ever enjoy sex again? How do I disclose? Will I be able to find true love?
October 15, 2015
Before you lick the vagina, touch it everywhere, inside and out. Drink her milkshake, eat her out.
October 7, 2015
Normally when the condom breaks the biggest fear is getting pregnant. This was the other way round – I was the one thinking, 'What might I have done to him?'
September 26, 2015
I see a different me, a body that is not sexual, not feminine but distorted, disfigured and a reminder of my HIV status...
June 16, 2015
First, stop labeling yourself. You are not your diagnosis.
March 9, 2015
Jessica Whitbread and Visual AIDS discuss their collaboration in making the Love Positive Women project a global holiday...
July 1, 2014
People living with HIV have so much of their past to consider when entering into new relationships. But relationships and dating can be very rewarding if...
February 12, 2014
It occurred to me that sometimes I make dating with HIV look easy, but it’s not by any stretch of the imagination.
November 30, 2012
Relationships aren’t easy. Anyone who has ever listened to a Taylor Swift song knows that. Even on the best of days, meeting new people is complicated.
November 6, 2012
Two women in spacesuits, legs interlocked, seem to be having a romantic evening at home in their retro-futuristic feminist landscape.
October 12, 2012
November 30, 2011
Why can’t we express an urgent, horny, powerful, and open message about positive women and sexuality?
March 12, 2010
Women living with HIV are significantly more likely to experience sexual problems compared with those not living with the virus, according to new results from...
December 1, 2009
I didn't think having what I thought was a difficult extra strain on a relationship would be worth it. Then you meet someone who you really like, and that changes your perspective.