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August 19, 2020
Published by Tranisha Arzah at August 19, 2020
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Embracing my call to New Orleans

I am moving to New Orleans!!! I’ve been preparing to relocate to New Orleans from my current residency in Seattle, WA for a few years now. You may be asking yourself as you read this, why New Orleans and especially why during a pandemic?
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August 2, 2020
Published by Sarah Feagan at August 2, 2020
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My Survival Guide During COVID19

In a global pandemic that demands physical distancing, no hugging or touching, how do we stay connected? Spiritually, mentally, physically and sexually.
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August 2, 2020
Published by Lillibobs Machin at August 2, 2020
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Returning from Self-Isolation

2020 has certainly been a year that will go down in history. It has brought smiles, sadness, and solitude for many people around the globe. For a person living with HIV, these emotions may be a regular feature of everyday life. For some it may be one more than another, while others paint their smiles on with lipstick and perform for their social circle.
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July 26, 2020
Published by Jerop Limo at July 26, 2020
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Dear Miss Corona

When you kicked in, anxiety became a widespread disease, especially among us young people living with HIV. For some reason, there was no correct information about you, and I was trying to figure out where I stood in terms of vulnerability to contracting coronavirus.
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May 14, 2020
Published by Jaydee at May 14, 2020
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Learning to Love Yourself Again

Learning to love yourself after a broken relationship, a rape, a life changing occurrence is often a very difficult thing to do. Getting over the shock, the loss and the changes that happen is probably the hardest step in the healing process.
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May 2, 2020
Published by Editors at May 2, 2020
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Meet the Marvelous Ms. Muchenje!

She is a case manager for Women’s Health, Community Relations & Communications Representative at ViiV Healthcare and helped run the Life and Love with HIV blog. Read her interview by Poz Planet...
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April 25, 2020
Published by Tranisha Arzah at April 25, 2020
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Power in Sisterhood

I sincerely believe that I wouldn’t be here or the growing person that I am today if it wasn’t for the vast and beautiful sisterhood that I’ve had the honor of being a part of in the last decade.
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April 23, 2020
Published by Sarah Feagan at April 23, 2020
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If I Could Have Sex One Last Time?

In this time of isolation, it’s nice to retreat into fun and fantasy… I would love to hear your responses to this question: If I could have sex one more time, what would it look like? That’s it - one more time - but only one. Just to clarify, I mean the last time ever.
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April 18, 2020
Published by Jerop Limo at April 18, 2020
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Body Confidence for Thought

Every morning I had a habit of waking up energized for the day, dressing up, and ensuring that I looked and felt good - not only about myself, but about the day I had to face. But many times I stood in the mirror and took forever to convince myself that I actually looked good...
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March 26, 2020
Published by Lillibobs Machin at March 26, 2020
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Independence vs. Dependence

In today’s world, women are encouraged to be the best version of themselves and quite rightly so. Women are told to speak up and have a voice, equal rights and never settle. The gravity of these points is enormous.
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March 25, 2020
Published by Jayne at March 25, 2020
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Poly and Positive

I am polyamorous. I can fall in love with and enjoy sexuality with more than one person, at the same time. I think love is something to be shared, experienced, and not limited. That jealously is a reaction to unhappiness within myself. Jealously comes from comparing myself to others. For me, polyamory is both a spiritual practice and a turn-on. Sexuality and spiritually are linked and ultimately about accepting love and connection.
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February 28, 2020
Published by Sarah Feagan at February 28, 2020
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When the marriage is over…

He told me he loved me. I said I do. WE walked beside each other, he held me up I do I was wrong
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February 9, 2020
Published by Jerop Limo at February 9, 2020
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Love is Patient

No one ever told you that you had to date someone in order to feel complete at some point. You just feel the need of having someone, especially when you have someone that you’re attracted to.
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January 8, 2020
Published by Tsubaki at January 8, 2020
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Blindsided

This is about the emotional blindside, that point in a relationship where you get comfortable, (sloppy even), let your guard down, with your entire planning system beginning and ending with the other person- and then BOOM!
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December 29, 2019
Published by Lillibobs Machin at December 29, 2019
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Who and Why Should I Tell?

Regardless of how, when or why we have become HIV positive, we must not forget that we are all fighting for the same thing: to empower, to educate and to simply live the best possible life we can.
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